10 EASY TIPS ON HOW TO RAISE TEEN & YOUNG URBAN MALES
Unfortunately, many parents and guardians prefer to rely on five word police commentary and the first two minutes of the nightly news to keep them informed of the climate and behaviors of their young urban males’ environment. Does this sound familiar? A parent/guardian is watching the 6pm news where there is a story of a big neighborhood teenage fight or a shooting involving a teenager in the area. The parent/guardian looks at their young male and says, “I know you don’t have anything to do with that? Right?” And of course, the young man is going to say “nawh.” And then, he will most likely leave the room or area to quickly avoid any more questions. You as the parent/guardian will feel like you have done your duty and that will most likely be the end of your inquiry. I am here to tell you that ain’t good enough. You will fail at monitoring your young male’s safety and properly managing his environment.
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Monitoring young urban males will be a very hard task. Several factors will increase or decrease the level of difficulties you will face as your young male grows older. Here are some Tried & True tips that will help make the process of monitoring him easier.
1- “Setting the tone early” in your young male’s mind. Let him know at age 10 who the boss and or bosses are. You don’t want to be repeating this at age 16 years old, at that age you only want to constantly remind him as a refresher course.
2- You as a parent/guardian must go further in investigating and answering the question of- “what is going on in the life of your young male?”
3- You cannot afford to put if off interventions with him until the next day. Timing is crucial in helping young males make good decisions.
4- You cannot worry about losing your friendship between you and your young male.
5- You cannot worry about hurting his feelings.
6- You cannot allow yourself to turn a blind eye.
7- You must at all times follow your gut instinct, because if you suspect that your young male is doing something negative or inappropriate there is a great chance he is.
8- Demand passwords/logins for his accounts-Facebook, Twitter, Snap Chat, KiK, Instagram and other social media sites.
9- Make random checks of his cell phone messages and photos.
10- Think and act like the police, but don’t try to be the police.
How to Raise Young Urban Males
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Shafiq R. Fulcher Abdussabur is an author, public speaker, racial profiling consultant, entrepreneur, and retired law enforcement Sergeant. His unique views and approach to urban violence prevention, racial profiling prevention and community based policing have been featured in the New York Times, Chicago Tribune, NPR-Where We Live, New Haven Independent, NPR-All Things Considered, WYBC-Electric Drum, New Haven Advocate, Russian Radio, BBC, PBS, New York Daily News, New Haven Register, Hartford Courant, and Al Jazeera America. His repertoire continues to grow consistently. He has appeared as a guest host on WNPR's “Where We Live.” He is also a contributing writer for the Huffington Post.
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